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Jan 7th
01:24 pm
To be honest...  
I don't know how much of this relationship news I will report. For one thing, it has never been my focus here. Further in many ways these stories and having public discussion on them makes me uncomfortable.

So many stories are speculation, half-truths or just plain fake. It makes me weary to give them much attention or credence by posting. On top of that, not to state the obvious but, it is a private relationship. The boundary for that is hard to distinguish with public figures sometimes but I hesitate on something so personal.

It can be very painful knowing that people, most of whom don't have but a fraction of the details, are dissecting or judging your private life... even if they have the best of intentions. I don't want to put myself on a pedestal because I've struggled with this even when posting news, pictures or comments about Zac alone and there are things I look back at and know I wouldn't post now. But I think we should proceed with caution especially in this case. I imagine it is most difficult about relationships because to me they are so cherished and so very, very complicated. How can we make predictions when they themselves may not even know for sure what the future holds?

Certainly it is natural to wonder why and to hope for the best, but still I feel there is just not much that we should be discussing here (or encouraging gossip sites to discuss by clicking on their stories) out of respect and understanding. Just let them be and we'll see what unfolds in time... hopefully, together or apart, it will be happiness for both.
Mood: hungryhungry
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Terry Jonumbereleven on January 7th, 2011 08:28 pm (UTC)
Oh man, I hear it. I imagine that I'm gonna be going through the same thing now, with Macaulay and Mila's breakup, in my communities. To me, it's just really not important until it's confirmed... and then, only because I can post pictures and be happy for them.
hunny miss (aka lets fead him to the gators)ehs_wildcats on January 8th, 2011 07:01 am (UTC)
yeah either way, you have to just keep the best and happiest moments at heart. that is all anyone can do.
taw091300 on January 7th, 2011 09:40 pm (UTC)
i feel like your lj has an integrity to it for posting what is confirmed and being honest when it isn't. if you think it's for the best to leave the highly questionable information about them and their relationship out, then do so because it wouldn't do anything but create more questions. it's not news about zefron, it's gossip. i trust your judgment and respect what you do and do not decide to post. :)
zacefronfan26 on January 8th, 2011 06:41 am (UTC)
I agree with this comment %100.
hunny miss (aka lets fead him to the gators)ehs_wildcats on January 8th, 2011 07:06 am (UTC)
thanks :)

i don't always know what is what and i certainly have screwed up before but i try to be careful to give my best impression on how reliable or likely something is. but yeah, questions won't do much for us right now... we all just need time to adjust and time to see what happens.
rachel berry ★audrey on January 8th, 2011 03:56 am (UTC)
Classy lady ♥ I really appreciate you discussing this and I second the integrity kudos. I always think the internet walks a fine privacy line for these people we respect, but then it's things like this that remind me that people do respect them.
hunny miss (aka lets fead him to the gators)ehs_wildcats on January 8th, 2011 07:18 am (UTC)
yeah it really is hard. i mean i know how important the privacy thing is to zac. but i also know (and ofc he knows) it is a bit of a quid pro quo... as long as it is in balance and people don't start going off the deep end about their sense of entitlement with his existence.

even paparazzi pics can be a challenge because though you know sometimes they are called they also aren't a lot. but it is nice to have confirmation of his existence if it has been awhile, lol. and i know if i didn't post them to ontd someone else would and probably would be meaner :/ fortunately he's gotten pretty good at avoiding them. though the pressure of having to avoid them or deal with them at all makes me sad for him.
lilly4848lilly4848 on January 9th, 2011 04:57 am (UTC)
You show so much class and integrity with this. It may be human nature for us to want to know every intimate detail of Zac's life, but honestly, it is wrong to invade his privacy. Deep down, I hope that we all know that. We are not his personal friends. We are not entitled to know anything more than what he wants to share. As you have said many times, we should just wish him well in whatever it is he does. We should just hope that he is happy and content. Keep doing what you are doing. You are doing the right thing.
Miranda gives everyone a chancemirandagirll on August 8th, 2014 03:49 am (UTC)
realizing it's 4 years later and ppl still talking about this lol